by Mary Wilkey
(Ohio, USA)
How do we fulfill the two greatest commandments?
The last time I said we would elaborate further on why our Lord tells us that the original ten commandments are fulfilled (hang) on the keeping of the two New Testament commandments:
by Mary Wilkey
(Ohio, USA)
Can You Forgive?
How to practice Christian forgiveness.
While we're discussing Bible basics, to my mind the next most important area for us to grow in would be to learn how to forgive. I've read and heard a lot of people expound on the idea that we need to forgive, and indeed we do. (That's as basic as the model prayer commonly called The Lord's Prayer.)
However, very few that I've ever heard or read offer practical suggestions as to how to go about this most difficult of requirements to fulfill.
Not that I know it all. Far from it, but I'm happy to share with you what works for me.
The hardest part, I believe, is conjuring up the desire to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply, intentionally or not, especially if you are or were very close to that person. The ability to do anything is about ten percent ability and ninety percent desire, or so I've heard.
Of course, as with anything hard, we always should pray for wisdom and guidance from the Lord as to how to proceed.
What I have found most helpful is to try to understand the offending party's motivation. What caused the person to take the actions s/he did? Was it fear? Greed? Self-preservation? Or was it a deliberate attempt to achieve some sort of recognition or to acquire something at your expense?
If you can understand what motivated the offending action, in most cases it will make it easier for you to find it in your heart to forgive. On the other hand, if the motivation was less than honorable, it is going to require an extraordinary effort on your part and a sincere prayer enlisting the Lord's help in doing so.
If anyone has any other suggestions on how to forgive, I am sure I am not alone in wanting to hear from you. :-)
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